Sunday, July 02, 2006

Speaking in Absolutes

When we start to pay attention to how we talk to another person,
we may find that we use the words always or never.

For example, if we say things like:

Women always get emotional
Men never understand women.
People of ____ race (fill in blank), never work hard.
Employees always waste time in meetings.

This almost certainly brings out the defenses in the other person.
It brings in generalizations and hurts those who definitely don't fit those categorizations.

In essence, you are saying that your thought or opinion is absolutely correct and there is no room for argument.
Others can then feel threatened or angry at your statements.
There own beliefs and attitude are now put on the line for debate and scrutiny.

They may feel attacked by your statement and stop listening to anything that you may say.
Which ultimately stops communication.

Using words like some or sometimes keeps the doors of communication open. It enables you to have a discussion about your thoughts and solutions to be worked out. Moreover, that's when success comes in.

Also, the above examples are negative which also can close down communication, but that's another article.

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
Communication Mastery
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Have a great week!


At 4:59 PM, Blogger ajay said...

Lets not speak in absolutes here and be specific. Communications are not just verbal. For written communications such as this piece proffering advice, it seems keeping the spellings correct is too archane a thing to follow. There is a difference in ´there´and ´their´


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