Thursday, June 23, 2005

Are ANT's Taking Over Your Life?

One of the first things that I work on with people having
trouble with communication is to look at what and how
they are communicating with themselves.

One area that stops people are ANTS.
These are automatic negative thinking.
There are several different ANT's and they can be so strong,
they stop people from succeeding.

Daniel G. Amen M.D. talks about them in his book,
"Change Your Brain Change Your Life".
He explains about the different types of ANTS and how they can
literately hurt your whole body system.

These negative thoughts actually affect your deep limbic
system in your brain. This can cause anxiety, anger, obsessiveness
and more creating a downward spiral.

Two of the deadly ANT's are, "mind reading" & "fortune-telling".
Guessing what the others persons actions are and re-acting on
that assumption. This creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A self-conversation can go something like:
"Jane didn't come and talk to me today. She must be
made at me. What did I do? Maybe she is avoiding me.
Maybe, she wants to promote Sally or Ted before me.
Why would she do that. I work hard and deserve the
promotion. I'll show her, she can't do that to me and get
away with it."

However, the truth is, we don't know what is happening with Jane.
She might not be feeling well. Maybe she is concerned about a family
member or friend. We just don't know,which is why it is important not to guess and to clarify with the person.

Overcoming your ANT's can help you move forward into a more creative and prosperous way of thinking.

Doug Bench, who teaches the neuroscience for the brain, understands just how dangerous these ANT's are and has created several tools to help people change their thinking including one called, "Stomping the ANT's", because he realizes the importance of removing them.

More and more this is being taught, because of the consequences that come from ANT's. and how many people's lives they destroy.
Take the time, to stomp, kill and remove those pesky ants from your life now.

To read the extended story on ANT's go to:
www.EzineArticles.com


P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
"Perceptions, How to discover what you are really seeing
and how it affects your belief system."

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the
steps to help you overcome challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Perceptions-Understanding What you are Really Seeing.

To Learn more about Doug Bench's Science for Success Program, go to:
http://www.scienceforsuccess.com

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
To sign up for a free report on
"The 7 Secrets to Communication Mastery" go to:
www.falconfreedom.com

Thursday, June 16, 2005

Networking is Communciating

I just returned from a business-networking meeting.

Victoria has many to choose from, depending on the area
you work in or the interests you have.

Some of them are more generalized for all business people,
like the Greater Victoria Chamber of Commerce.
They hosted the one tonight. There was an excellent
crowd and they always have a fabulous spread of food for
the people attending. The organizers do a great job and
host them at different places around the city.

Others are more specific, an example would be VIATeC
(Vancouver Island Advanced Technology Centre) and CIPS
(Canadian Information Processing Society) which are
aimed at the high tech market. There is also SME, (Sales
and Marketing Executives) and VIMPS (Vancouver Island
Meeting Planners Society), just to name a few.
What ever your interest or area of expertise, there is
probably a networking group to suit you.

But why attend.

Whether you are starting, developing, growing or even
have a successful business, it is important to get out and
meet people. The fact is people like to do business with
those they like, trust and can put a face to. And one of
the best ways you can do that is go out there and meet
people. Get to know them, greet them. Ask them
questions about what they do and learn what their needs
and desires are.

I have watched people attend the meetings and then
stand there in hopes that someone will come up and say
something. Although sometimes it seems they are hoping
no one will approach them. It is a shame really. There
are so many amazing and wonderful people in the world
and when you open up to meeting them, you discover
things, ideas and events that you would not normally
have experienced.

I have so many wonderful memories and experiences that
have come from meeting people and discovering new
ideas and ways of seeing life.

This can be possible for anyone of you. The first step is
to be willing. You can then learn what to do and how to
communicate with others around you.

I wish you all the best on your road to discovery of the
many delights before you.

P.S. If you like what you're reading in
this newsletter, you'll love the book,
“Overcoming Barriers to Communication”

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps
to help you overcome challenges in communicating and
connecting with others.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication


MLBU is Here!

As the coordinator for the Master List Builder University,
I would like to invite you to discover this service for yourself.

Joel and I decided to do a Father's Day Special to kick start The Master List Builder University, because we would like people to learn from the leader and not follow the followers!

Many times you will see people start things and then
several other people will start them too.

Joel Christopher started doing teleconferences even
though others said it wouldn't work, then others followed.

Joel Christopher started webinars, mentoring programs and others followed.

He is now ready to start a membership site
and for sure others will quickly follow.

So he has put together on online University where you can:

- Discover why the others are following in his footsteps
- Learn how to develop your business
- Remove the confusion on how to build your business
with this step by step system
- Discover how to attract clients
- Have a place where others could connect with
like-minded people
- Have a place where you can go to get answers to your questions

Come to MLBU and see what information is before you.

Right now we are having a Father's day sale where you
can have one month's membership for only $1.00.

Yes, you are not seeing things.
It's only a dollar to join.

You will have access to the start of something amazing.
Be a part of this history by going to
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BUT... only if you act quickly!

Have a great week!

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
www.falconfreedom.com

Friday, June 10, 2005

Multi-Levels of Communication

Who you are and what you do is communicated on so many levels. The words you speak are but a small aspect of communication. And learning to have all your communciaion levels in alignment will give you the ability to take command and attract attention.

Many times people have trouble getting across what they want to tell the other people. There can be many reasons for this and it doesn't always come from not knowing what to say.

There are times when it comes from not being clear about who you are, what you want and the exact message that you want to give.

Quite often with either peer pressure or trying to look good to a person client or business, people will not remain true to who they are and what they are about. These incongruencies come across in what you say and do.

People will notice this and they will sense that something is not quite right about your message. This lowers the trust level and creates barriers.

There was a man who asked Mahatma Gandhi how he was able to speak for hours with out any notes.

He stated that it was because it came from his passion and that he was in alignment with his whole message.

He said that so many people will:
Think one thing,
Say another,
Feel a third
Then act in a forth manner.

They are trying to be too many things to too many people and then they have a hard time keeping it straight in their own mine.

This is why it is important to know and communicate with yourself first and know what it is that you want to state.

And remember the people will pick up your message that you are not in alignment.

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
"Perceptions, How to discover what you are really seeing and how it affects your belief system."

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome challenges in communicating and connecting with others.


All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
To sign up for a free report on "The 7 Secrets to Communication Mastery" go to:
www.falconfreedom.com

Tuesday, June 07, 2005

A New Way to Easily Achieve Your Goals

I have had many people ask me what they need to communicate to achieve their goals and dreams. There is an way of being that can enhance you greatly along the way.
Joe Vitale wrote this wonderful piece and has give permission to share with you.
Enjoy!

by Dr. Joe Vitale
http://www.MrFire.com/factor

I've learned at least two things about achieving goals:
There is an easy way and a hard way.

The hard way is to work night and day, stay obsessed,
rarely sleep, and never give up.

Since everyone talks about the hard way, I want to
address the easy way. After all, why struggle if
you don't have to?

I've used the easy way to create bestselling books,
lose 70 pounds in 8 months, find my ideal mate,
get healthy, increase my wealth, and much more.

Obviously, it works.

Here's the formula in brief:

1. Be grateful for what you already have.

2. Playfully declare what you would like to have with
positive emotion, feeling as if it is already achieved.

3. Act on the nudges and opportunities that appear.

That's it. In my latest book, "The Attractor Factor,"
I explain a 5-step formula for getting what you want.
It's useful for those times when you don't feel
grateful, or can't decide on what you want, or
don't understand the concept of letting go while
taking inspired action. It's also helpful when you
have issues about money, or deserving, or feel
in any way blocked from your goals.

But the bottom-line for me is this: Declare what
you would like with no attachment and plenty of
good feeling, feel grateful for what you already
have, and act on what appears. The result will
be the manifestation of a happy life.

Let's explore this in depth.

1. Feel grateful now.

It doesn't mater where you live or what you have.
If you're reading this, you're most likely living like
a king or queen compared to people in third world
countries. You may even be living better than
kings or queens from history, as they often lived
in cold, violent, frightful times. You've got it made.

2. Choose what you want without attachment,
feeling as if it is already achieved.

There's magic in saying "Id love to---(fill in the
blank) but I won't die if I don't have it." Since the
world is simply energy taking form, when you
declare you want something, you begin to attract
it. But when you say you need something, the need
pushes it away. You want to select your desire,
and feel the joy of already having it, without feeling
any desperation. Need will push it away; Desire
will attract it. If you feel as if you *already* have it,
then you *will* have it.

3. Act on your opportunities and intuitions.

You may get offers, calls, or who knows what.
Act on them. You never know what will lead you
to your goal. Your ego cannot see the big picture.
Intuition and opportunities will come to you from
the larger view, and your job is to act on them.
As you do, you will be taken to your goal, even
when it appears you are being blocked away.
Trust is key.

Is that really all there is to it?

Again, the fuller procedure in "The Attractor Factor"
will take care of any snags in the process, but the
basic process is simple. Let's walk through it:

1. Look around your room. What are you grateful
for? Make a list. Get into the authentic feeling
of true gratitude. In other words, be happy now.
You don't need a reason to be happy. But if you
want one, find something, anything, to be grateful
for right now. When you're grateful, you're in a
mental place that will attract more to be grateful for.

2. Look around the playground of your mind.
What would you like to have, do, or be? What
would be fun? Write it down. As you do, feel
what it would be like to already have it now.
Pretend you won the lotto. What would you
want for yourself or others? What would be fun?
The key is playful non-attachment while
experiencing its completion *now.*

3. Now pay attention. As you go about your life,
listen to your hunches and act on them, and pay
attention to the opportunities and act on them.
You never know what will take you in the direction
of your goal. Your job is to take inspired action.
You may have some work to do in this step, but
the work will be from your heart, and will take
you in the direction of getting your goal.

Why not go through the steps right now?

Write them down, experience them, and then
check back in a few weeks and see how they
are doing. You may surprise yourself by how
easily and quickly your goals are achieved.

If you find yourself doubting the process,
thinking negative, or in any way not enjoying
the simplicity of the easy way to attain your
goals, then consider learning the 5 step
process in "The Attractor Factor."

Above all, have fun. Keep smiling. Be playful.
Stay grateful. These are all elements of the
new secret to manifesting your goals.

Remember the words of a famous song that
also perfectly summaries this new way to
achieve your goals: "Don't worry. Be happy."

*********************************************************
Dr. Joe Vitale is the author of way too many books
to list here. His latest title is "The Attractor Factor:
5 Easy Steps for Creating Wealth (or anything else)
From the Inside Out." Get details at
Spiritual Marketing

Friday, June 03, 2005

Listening -The Lost Art of Communication

"One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of attention."
-- Jim Rohn

Quite often I have people saying to me things like, "Maria, I just can't seem to get my (kids, spouse, boss, employees, friends etc.) to listen. It is so frustrating, what do I do?"

One reason people have this challenge, is they do not understand that listening is a skill you need to learn. This is essential to be able to connect with others. It's a skill that has many aspects to it.

Listening is considered one of the most important skills in the work force.

Sadly, in most schools, it is never taught. Many teachers believe that if you can hear, then you can listen. But, hearing and listening are two very different functions.

It would be the same as saying, if you can see than you can read. If this were true than we should be able to read anything put in front of us in any language without any training.

Statistics show that many workplace disasters were a result of an inability to listen properly to instructions and then trying to guess what the person said or meant.

Many times people believe if someone is telling them about a challenge that they are having, that it is a cue to jump in and start solving the problem. However, most people wish only to have a sounding board and just to have you listen. To take over disempowers the other person.

For a first step on the road to understanding listening, I have seen this poem used in different communication courses.

Please Listen

When I ask you to listen,
And you start giving advice,
You have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen,
And you begin to tell me
Why I shouldn’t feel the way I do,
You are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen,
And you feel you have to do something
To solve my problem,
You have failed me,
Strange as that may seem.

Listen,
All I asked you to do was listen,
Not talk, or do-
Just hear me.

I can do for myself;
I am not helpless . . .
Perhaps discouraged or faltering,
But not helpless.

When you do something for me
That I need to do for myself,
You contribute to my fear and weakness,

But, when you accept the fact
That I feel what I feel
No matter how irrational,
Then I can get on with understanding
What’s behind that irrational feeling.

And, when that’s clear,
The answers will be obvious,
And I won’t need any
Advice.

-Unknown

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this ezine, you'll love the book, “Overcoming Barriers to Communication.”
It's a manual that helps you overcome the challengers that start with Intrapersonal to Interpersonal and on to Mass Communication.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication

Feel free to comment on any of the articles you read. I welcome feedback.

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
To sign up for a free report on
"The 7 Secrets to Communication Mastery" go to:
www.falconfreedom.com