Thursday, May 26, 2005

Communication and Humour

In this issue;
Communication and Humour

Humour has an amazing ability to build a bond among people. When people laugh they connect at a higher level due to the release of endorphins in their system.
As well the pleasure enables what you are learning to enter through your amygdala in your brain, which increases learning and memory capabilities.

There are two aspects to communication and humour. One is more intentional and the other is a factor of the language itself which creates puns and faux pas.

I have seen people use humour as a way to calm their nerves down. They start reciting one-liners that are irrelevant or unrelated to the subject matter at hand. This generally bombs.
There is nothing worse than trying to sound funny and finding out you are getting no reaction from the audience.

I have also seen people go into areas that they think are funny, but the audience does not.
These can be in areas such as: sexist, racial, gender, blonde, cultural etc. It is important to consider your audience, and even if you think that they would like them, you don’t always know and it can be a very dangerous area to go into.

Most humour that succeeds are stories that relate either to the subject matter or to help get a point across. I know one man who didn’t even try to be funny. He just related some of his own mishaps along the way to where he has got in life, which came out hilarious. These are things that people can relate to or understand on some level.

The audience generally can see themselves in that predicament and visualize it in their heads.

To illustrate this, when we communicate with people there is a high probability for misunderstandings, which can take on some, very ironic or funny outcomes.

One area that causes problems for children and many adults, are the words don’t and not, which are abstract and do not register in the brain. They just see the words after don’t and not. For example if you said to a child, "Don’t spill the milk", their brains see, "Spill the Milk". And statistics show that 9 times out of 10 the child will spill the milk

I remember a time this person was heading to a donut shop and she asked if anyone would like anything. I said that she could grab me a muffin. When she asked what type, I said, oh anything as long as it is not bran or blueberry.

I could see her repeating to her self, no bran, no blueberry. When she got back, she handed me a large blueberry bran muffin. The two that I didn’t like nicely combined.

This is why we teach that you should be asking for what you do want as apposed to what you don’t want.

Metaphors can also be great when you enter humour through related stories, as people tend to listen more intently and remember more vividly. It is all about keeping it in tune with how you are and what you do.

The second area of humour comes from the fact that we have so many words with double meanings as well homonyms and synonyms.
Puns for example when used well can have people laughing or have people wanting to throw things at you.

Humor can also ease the tension in a discussion when there appears to be a conflict. When people are laughing they tend to find the middle ground easier. Sometimes using humor to break a pattern is enough to get the discussion back to problem solving instead of being stuck in an ego battle.

The best type of humor... That is when you can laugh at yourself, any mistakes you've made, continue on with a smile and know that you now have a new learning experience to grow on.

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this ezine, you'll
love the book, "Overcoming Barriers to Communication."
It's a manual that helps you overcome the challengers that start with
Intrapersonal to Interpersonal and on to Mass Communication.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication

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Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Thursday, May 19, 2005

Intercultural Communication

In this issue;
Cultural differences
Communication Survey- Your thoughts matter.

Intercultural Communication

Cultural differences are being dealt with more and more now a days and the ability to work well with all types of people enhances you and your business to greater opportunities and success.

As businesses expand globally and participate in outsourcing, there are guidelines to help you along the way.

I have worked in areas where I have had the opportunity to work with and discover different cultural differences in communicating and interacting.

One of those was the commonwealth games; we covered 2 years with the pre-games and then the actual event.

The people I met with ranged from athletes, coaches, media, production teams, dignitaries and royalties.

In each of the cultures, there were different protocols depending on status, jobs, and how each of them were raised.

What mattered to one individual was be considered irrelevant to another.
There was also the matter of how close you were to stand to the person, whether or not you looked them in the eye, and how you you dealt with different issues.

You can try to make everything just right only to find out the something was over looked or incorrectly interpreted or put together. The degree of importance will also vary.

There was one country who was very upset when they saw there flag. The said it was wrong. Quickly people jumped into place to find out why the wrong one was sent out. When they looked at the flag and the book it appeared to be the correct one. This confused them and when they asked what was wrong with the flag, the reply was look at the color, it is the wrong shade.

This was very important to them. And at an international event you want to make things right. Another flag was needed to replace the one we had.

My point is that you never know what kinds of challenges you will face and if you deal with them calmly, it will take you and your business far and you will be able to be able to embrace new opportunities and discover new friends and clients.

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
"Perceptions, How to discover what you are really seeing and how it affects your belief system."

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome
challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Perceptions-Understanding What you are Really Seeing.

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All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Thursday, May 12, 2005

What's with UP?

I am blessed with friends that send me communication humour and I thought that it would be great to use this today on my birthday. I believe we can connect on a deeper level when we use humour appropriately.

Not only is it funny, it can also show you how easily words can be used in different manners that can create confusion and misunderstanding.
While seeing the humour in this, take time to note how one word can be so interchangeable.

So what is this stuff about English being easy? There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word in the English language -- and that is the word "UP."

It's easy to understand UP (meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list) but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP?

At a meeting, why does a topic come UP? Why do we speak UP and why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report?

We call UP our friends and we use it to brighten UP a room, polish UP the silver, we warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen. We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP the old car.

At other times the little word has real special meaning.
People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses.

To be dressed is one thing but to be dressed UP is special.

And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP.

We open UP a store in the morning, but we close it UP at night.

We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP !

To understand the proper uses of UP, look it UP in the dictionary. In a desk size dictionary, the word up takes UP almost a quarter page and it adds UP to about thirty definitions.

If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many ways UP is used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don't give UP, you may wind UP with a hundred or more.

When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP. When the sun comes out we say it is clearing UP .

When it rains, it wets UP the earth. When it doesn't rain for awhile, things dry UP.

One could go on and on, but I'll wrap it UP, for now my time is UP, so...I'll just shut UP !

Have a great week. All the Best!

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
“Overcoming Barriers to Communication”

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication

Next week I will be bringing you a survey. You can let me know what your communiction concerns are and what you would like to see written.

Have a great week!

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator

Thursday, May 05, 2005

The Benefits Of Working With The Media

There are many benefits to your business by working with the media.
Yet, many people have an immediate reaction and want to go running
for cover and hide from them.

Yet, Credibility, Attention and Expert status and a couple of benefits
you can acquire.

There is a famous proverb states that:
“one cannot not communicate”.
This is important to remember and if you choose not to work with
them, you are still giving a message.

The great PT Barnum stated just before he passed on that
he credited the media for his mass fortune and great success.

Let's look at some benefits:

When you learn the protocol for interacting with the media, it can turn into a wonderful and profitable experience for both the business and media.

The media can supply you with some very valuable free coverage and coverage that is third party. This coverage gives credibility to what you are doing or saying. The public will trust an article in the media more than they will an ad. They see it as an unbiased evaluation of what you are about and whether or not you can be trusted.

You are giving them a message that you want delivered verses one that they think you are saying.

Always remember that we need a symbiotic relationship with the media. There will be times when you want to announce an upcoming event,a breakthrough or change in your organization etc. How you have treated them in the past will affect what kind of coverage you will get and whether it is good or not.

Should something happen that could be negative,the media may write the story whether you cooperate or not. For the most part, it is better to have your comments included rather than them only having half the facts or speculation to go on.

If you are concerned about how you or a member of your company may act toward the media, you can learn the protocols and understand the do's and don'ts. This way you can insure that each person in your organization would know how to respond (AND NOT REACT) and know where to direct the media.

Media Relations can be one of the most important and critical elements of any operation. See the media as one of your most important audiences whether it is to promote or uphold your image, or to get valuable information out to the public.

There are basics that you can learn in; how to dress, answer questions,understanding predictable verse unpredictable events, damage control,internal concerns, types of media and more.

Remember that we need to engage with the media, not defeat them. The person we defeat today will probably be the person whose cooperation we need tomorrow.

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this ezine,
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It's a manual that helps you Increasing quality coverage and
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All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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