Thursday, April 28, 2005

Conflict Resolution -When Safety is an Issue

Conflict generally arises by having your needs, desires,
perceptions and values challenged.


When a person feels that their values are being challenged
they generally respond the strongest. Inwardly they feel
their personal safety threatened and desire to stop that
threat.

Issues not dealt with, they can become a trigger for the
people involved.

We can see the reason when we look at the three parts of
the resolution.

Content: Is the issue to be resolved.
Process: How we talk to and treat each other. Allowing
people to feel heard and acknowledged.
Emotion: How we feel about what happened. If we are
angry, we shut down our thinking process and the conflicts
rarely get resolved.

Many things trigger emotions; the history between the people or organization,
the issue or events.

One important aspects is not to jump into solution right away.
Many times important elements or ideas can be over looked.
As well, when we don’t give people a chance to come up with their
own solutions, we disempower them.

It is essential when you want a strong working team to
give the belief of trust in the other person to come up with
his or her own solutions whenever possible.

In business, there are situations where time is of the
essence, and you need to act, however, done too often will lead to
a breakdown in trust and performance by workers and partners.

It is important not to generalize. Stating observable facts
in a neutral tone with open the doors to resolution. People
who feel attacked will close down and fight and solutions.

There are many aspects to conflict resolution and some
things seem like they are harder to deal with. However, in
the end, when trust and respect are a part of your
atmosphere, you will find greater success and
achievements in all of your endeavors.

To read the full story and find out different styles that you
can use, read the ezine article titled
Conflict Resolution Training -When Safety is an Issue
at:
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P.S. If you like what you're reading in
this newsletter, you'll love the book,
"Perceptions, How to discover what you are really seeing
and how it affects your belief system."

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps
to help you overcome challenges in communicating and
connecting with others.

Perceptions-Understanding What you are Really Seeing.


All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Thursday, April 21, 2005

Slangs, What Challenges are they Causing for You?

As a society, we get so used to using slang's that we stop realizing that we are even using them. The slangs can even differ from one part of the country that you are living in to another.
I have spoken to people who have learned English as a second language, received an A in class and still didn't understand what was being said because of the amount of slang words being used.
Even in different industries, we start using jargons and slangs that others wouldn't understand unless they were in that industry.
Many sports minded people use the sport terminology in business such as, "carry the ball" or "he sure dropped the ball on that one."
Even the dictionaries are now entering some of the more commonly used slangs.
The Merriam- Webster dictionary added these examples:

Headbanger- a hard rock musician and a fan
Dead presidents- Paper currency
Prairie Gophering – people who peer above their cubicles at work.
McJob- Low paying and dead-end work.
Comb-over- an attempt to cover a bald spot

Therefore, when you are trying to communicate and get a message across, it is important to ask yourself, am I using slangs, could this be miss-interpreted. It is when we stop and look at the details that many misunderstandings are alleviated.

Have a great week.

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
"Overcoming Barriers to Communication"

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication


All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
www.falconfreedom.com

Thursday, April 14, 2005

GOSSIP

Sadly, one of the fastest ways to communicate or get a message across is to gossip or to tell someone that it is gossip.
Gossip is one of the most destructive forces in nature. It has torn apart innocent lives and caused the breakdown of many businesses.
It destroys trust and creates fear.
Many people are afraid to speak up against a gossiper in fear that they might be the next target. Yet, when we don't take a stand, we are contributing to continued use of gossip.

Those that like to gossip don't realize that they are hurting themselves as well as the person that they are talking about.
Many times they are doing it to cover up their own insecurities, instead of resolving them. Some will say that they aren't gossiping and will come out with somethings like, Did you hear what so and so is saying about....

They try to justify that it is the other person doing it and they are only showing what is being said. However, they are just as much a part of it.
Many times we contribute to the gossip by what we do or don't do, yet if we want to have a healthy trusting environment to work and live in, we must be part of the solution.

Then we can grow, prosper and attract like minded people into our lives,
instead of those that would hurt or harm others.

There are many ways to deal with negative and gossiping people.
Joe Vitale in his new book 'The Attractor Factor' showed how
Socrates' would deal with gossipers.
(Paraphrased)
When someone wanted to tell him something, he would stop them and ask three questions.
1.What you are about to tell me, do you personally know it to be true.
2. Is is about someone you personally know.
3. Is it positive or negative.
He would then say, so you want to tell me something, that you don't personally know to be true about someone you don't really know and it is negative. Then I will pass.

I also read a story about a Buddha who sat quietly while a person insulted him. Once the man was done, the Buddha looked at him and said, "Sir, if a man offered another person a gift and the gift was refused, to whom would the gift belong?"
"Why the person that offered it", reply the man.
"Then", said the Buddha "I respectfully decline your offer of abuse and you may keep it for yourself."

To read about Socrates' in Joe Vitale's book go to:
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Discover Your GQ-- 'Gossip Quotient'
Gossip: Ten Pathways to Eliminate It from Your Life and
Transform Your Soul
To take the quiz go to:
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Bob Burg ( http://www.burg.com ) is author of 'Endless Referrals' and 'Winning Without Intimidation: How to Master the
Art of Positive Persuasion in Today's Real World'

P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
"Overcoming Barriers to Communication"

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication

Have a great week!
All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
www.falconfreedom.com

Thursday, April 07, 2005

This is Dedicated to My Friends of....

In this issue:
Dedication to my Friends of "Sticklers for Grammatical Perfection."
John Assaraf's Cloning for Success
Attractor Factor update!

Dedication to my Friends of 'Sticklers for Grammatical Perfection'.


As I write many words each week with my online magazine articles, the news letters, updating my manuals, co-authoring a book, and working on aJV partnership with an online business University, grammatical errors can slip by me and even those who look over my work.
Fortunately, I have friends who email me to let me know what slipped passed me.
To these soldiers of grammar. I dedicate this wonderful humour piece that was sent to me.(Oh, they recommend the book,'Eats, Shoots and Leaves:The Zero Tolerance Approach to Punctuation, by Lynne Truss

Enjoy!

How To Write Good

1. Always avoid alliteration.
2. Never use a long word when a diminutive one will do.
3. Eschew ampersands & abbreviations, etc.
4. Parenthetical remarks (however relevant) are unnecessary.
5. Remember to never split an infinitive.
6. Foreign words and phrases are not apropos.
7. One should never generalize.
8. Comparisons are as bad as clichés..
9. Don't be redundant; don't use more words than necessary;
it's highly superfluous
10. Be more or less specific.
11. Who needs rhetorical questions?
12. One-word sentences? Eliminate.
13. Analogies in writing are like feathers on a snake.
14. Go around the barn at high noon to avoid colloquialisms.
15. Even if a mixed metaphor sings, it should be derailed.
16. Writing carefully, dangling participles must be avoided.
17. Exaggeration is a billion times worse than understatement.
18. Don't never use a double negative.
19. Verbs have to agree with their subjects.
20. Don't overuse exclamation marks!!!!!!!


P.S. If you like what you're reading in this
newsletter, you'll love the book,
“Overcoming Barriers to Communication”

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication

John Assaraf
I met John Assaraf at the Double Birthday Bash in San Antonio.
I was looking forward to meeting him as I love quantum physics and
John is a person who understands how quantum physics can attract
what you want in life.

I enjoyed his energy and his ability to show you what is possible.

He is the New York Times best selling author of 'The Street Kids Guide
to Having It All. He has dedicated himself to the scientific study of peak performance.

John's life transformed from a turbulent renegade teen, and now
generates over $4 billion a year in sales.

Today he teaches people how to succeed.

Next week John is having a very fast-paced 45 minute teleconference
call where he will interview 5 of his millionaire friends so you can
learn how they think differently than you do.

One of his mentors, a multi-millionaire once said to him "if you want to become a millionaire you have to first learn to think and act like one".
John took heed of his advice and was fortunate to become a multi-millionaire by the time he was 30.

He is asked all the time if it's possible to learn how to think like a millionaire.

The answer was absolutely YES! But first you have to decide if you're serious about becoming a millionaire. I mean really serious and not just interested. It takes a real commitment to doing what it takes.

If you want to learn to think like a millionaire and are committed to doing what it takes...
Go to:
http://www.cloningofsuccess.com/calls.htm

and register for the free call right now.


Dr. Joe Vitale is released his new book, The Attractor Factor.
Yesterday, he surpassed Harry Potter! He is the only one to do this.
Many have tried.
Find out why so many people are anxious to get a copy of
The Attractor Factor: 5 Easy Steps for Creating Wealth.

Find the details here;
The Attractor Factor

Dr. Rick Barrett said, "This book has the potential to change humanity."
Joe wants to help change the world by getting this book into every literate person’s hands.

Have a great week!

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
www.falconfreedom.com